- Marriage takes work.
- You and your husband play for the same team.
- It’s not always fun, but it will be rewarding.
- God wants couples to stay in love.
- God has a plan to help us do that.
If you get married and you go into it with a fairy tale mindset, you will be heavily disappointed and you or your spouse will grow weary by trying to keep up the charade. I know that sounds a little brutally honest but it’s true. I am not saying that whimsical and romantic marriages do not exist, they do. But to have a happy long lasting marriage, we need to align our marriages with God’s word instead of Disney characters, romance novels, and romantic Films. I am definitely not knocking romantic movies, I’m a huge fan – but I am also a realist and quickly realized they don’t always come true. The hero in the best love story is Christ; no other Prince died for their bride. So with realizing that, it was evident that having a happy marriage required a plan – it requires God’s plan .
- Love always protects the relationship.
- Love always believes the best.
- Love always hopes.
- Love never gives up on the relationship
You rounded up this post beautifully “Where there is great work, there is great reward.” I usually don’t like to stress marriage with “work” because I do believe in the bliss of marriage but more of the word “work” just rubs me the wrong way, lol. For me, my better choice of word is commitment and discipline. Christ loved us even why we were yet sinners, so to love like Christ means to love “in spite of” and that sure takes disciple and of course we can’t mention the success of it without mentioning his grace!
Love the post!
Thandi Le'mana says
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Lim Seonyoung says
Great post, I think the one thing that people often forget with marriage is that it takes work! You have to put in the time and effort just like anything else that you want to be fruitful..
Right Lim to see reap the harvest you must do the work. Sometimes it seems that people will put more work into a career and other relationships than a marriage. It’s not always beautiful just like a garden sometimes you will have to weed and prune it before your can see the beautiful fruits that are hidden in the bush.
Great post. I’ve been married for about five years (come August 2nd!) and we’ve been together for nearly a decade now, and sometimes it IS work, sometimes it WOULD be easier for him to not always be in the same house with me. But those are temporary mental spaces, and we work our way out of it. Part of it, for us, has always been that our relationship is a partnership; all successful relationships are working partnerships every step of the way.
Aww Katie Happy Early wedding anniversary. Summer weddings are thee best. I was married on July 2nd, we celebrated 8 years just a week ago. Space is important in a marriage – I think as wives and sometimes even husbands neglect their own needs in a marriage. It’s also good to make sure all your needs are meet so that you can be the best you for your spouse. And I agree with you, marriage is totally a partnership – being on the same team and working together is the only way a marriage will ever last.
Katie F says
Summer weddings are the best AND the worst – it was 94 degrees when we started giving our vows at 11 AM! Luckily, even though our wedding was outside, we had a very quick service and then made sure everyone went in to the air-conditioned reception room 🙂
great post and so true! i’ve been married about 3 years and i’ve learned that movies, books music etc. don’t understand that love is not a feeling. love is much more deeper and lasting than a feeling.
Yes you are exactly right. I love that they show the beautiful parts of marriage but I think it’d be more realistic if they showed some of the not so pretty parts too. Love goes so much more deeper than feelings….action counts just as much.